Holding or Hinged?

Do you remember the first time you waived good-bye? The fluttering in your heart tossed an undercurrent like the blue crashing sea. You thought you were on top of it all, only to find you’ve been knocked by something so small.

Never lose hope - for in and out the ocean roars – back and forth calling for more. Each new wave is the first to begin a series of them. When life has pinned you down – wait – awhile and the tug boat will come back around. For in the gulf of existence, it’s the strong who make it far to shore – while never leaving the ocean floor.

This is about becoming unstuck from attachments that no longer serve the greatest good for you, or the other person/people.  Here it begins – or in some cases, it ends.

Over the past decade of my life ( my “love” life) I’ve hit some crashes that left me feeling like a fin-less dolphin without a friend. The men seemed like sharks. They really did. They came along side and watched for a while. You see them. They move closer – and you begin to believe they want to swim with you in this ocean of life. Next thing you know,  you’ve been bitten and are bleeding in heart. But also it feels like bleeding in body and soul. How can this be? You were only a sweet dolphin swimming in the sea.

The purpose of this metaphor of oceans/seas is to contrast the unpredictability of relationships. I’m particularly speaking of male/female ones. When do you come to realize you’re holding on to someone who will drown you in the end? How do you know if you’ve been hinged to a person who will bring you to your greatest potential times 10?

Believe me, many thoughts, and years of trials and contemplations have given me a few answers.

1.) Romantic feelings come and go – but a fish worth keeping will swim with you through the high tides and low rises. This takes TIME and channeling many waters.

2.) You’re casting a net and see – all these amazing possibilities! Hey wait…there’s one, two…no three fishes out there for me! How do you know you’ll catch the right one? Well, I don’t know if we can 100% know. But the fish who has most of what you’re looking for will probably be a good catch. One of the greatest requirements is KNOWING WHERE to fish!

3.) You see two fishes dancing around your knees. Only one can be yours. Which do you take? Oh my, can I have two? Heck no…for heavens sake. If there are two catches you like – see which one is willing to be held. Let the one who swims away – have a great day!

4.) You’ve hit the ocean floor. It feels like you can’t come back for more. A little one spots you from above, and swims down to where you’ve been shoved. You see his fin, and he takes the lead – right back up to where you once believed. This one may truly be a fish worth keeping – the one who takes you to the top - out of the darkness of the drop.

5.) Lastly, you’re wondering if you’re the only one in the sea. You take notice of others floating so freely. Why do you sense you’re all alone in a school of many that seem to have homes? This I say – and this I mean – YOU are the only YOU swimming in this sea. One worth keeping will stop to see if after all the traveling – you were meant to be.

~Jaime

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